The notion of twin flames has been a source of fascination for a lot of people, including myself. Just the possibility of finding the person who can take us to the highest levels of ecstasy is very tempting and maybe the highest reward we can expect for going through earthly pains.
Twin flames are said to be perfect mirrors of each other, holding each others shadow and reflecting it back. It is said that we strive towards wholeness and that includes our shadow- disowned and unhealed parts. Because we are seeing or inner reflection in them, the interaction can be overwhelming.
I have been fortunate to have had three relationships that fit that description. They turned my life upside down and brought up all of my issues to the surface that have been lying dormant in the secret crevices of my psyche. They kicked my spiritual growth into high gear and I had to hang on tight. Really tight.
There is a misunderstanding about what the purpose of a twin flame is. When we meet someone we have a deep, inseparable connection with, we expect to have a life filled with roses and rainbows. I am not saying that this is not true or possible. Instead, I would like to bring in an expanded perspective that informs us, hopeless romantics.
Twin flames represent the perfect yin-yang balance in both people. When they come together, it is usually a very challenging relationship full of emotional roller-coasters. The encounter can create havoc in one’s life. This happens because both people have more inner work to do to find the balance in their masculine and feminine energies the relationship calls for. The twin flame relationship highlights any unhealed issue in their psyche for this to happen. The emotional pain these relationships can bring up can sometimes be unbearable.
Here we experience duality in the truest sense: we feel the highs and the lows simultaneously or interchangeably. Positive emotions- such as passion of the highest kind and joy seem to come exploding out of our hearts that feel unbound and limitless. If we are still green in our spiritual and personal development, even the good feelings are very difficult to contain.
Two people who experience this ecstasy along with the crazy-making emotional upheaval can have a tough time detaching from each other in order to do their inner work. Yet, being together makes it nearly impossible to work through what comes up due to the intensity of their togetherness. You can’t walk away. The highs are incredibly delicious. The lows are lower than one might have ever imagined hitting.
Maybe you had not been on a spiritual path before or had been slowly awakening. Maybe you had been receiving the call but had bills to pay and TV dramas to catch up on. I am intimately familiar with looking under every rock to escape or numb the pain that is awakened by this indescribably heavenly, yet equally intense connection.
The hardest and the most unromantic aspect of a twin flame relationship is finding practitioners and healers who know how to help these lovers navigate the rough waters of this ecstatic, shadow-revealing, ego-crumbling connection. This only fuels the ‘hell on earth’ experience.
Trust that this is an opportunity that can help you access your soul truths and develop the courage to live them on the earth plane. This is why all your vulnerabilities float to the surface by the electrifying effect of this encounter. All of this is aiding you in identifying and dropping ego defenses that prevent you from feeling loved and loveable.
The person you are evolving into has the potential to know the highest joy known to humans. The kind that can only come from being of service to humanity by using his/her divinely endowed gifts in a balanced way.
Your twin flame came into your life as a wakeup call. You were destined to meet, learn to rise above false ideas and access unshakable soul truths that will bring you to the highest, most beautiful and profound expression of love this planet has ever seen.
When a twin flame couple is in alignment and has done their inner work, their togetherness acts as an alchemist to the hearts of those they encounter. Their union no longer serves to fill a romantic illusion but to alchemize and transform emotions based on ego satisfaction blind to soul expansion. The couple becomes a team that awakens, heals and transforms lower vibration feelings we have learned to call ‘love’. Their relationship serves as a catalyst for other couples to transcend their conditioning and to align themselves with the higher purpose they were destined to discover and actualize.
If you are in the middle of the turmoil of one of those twin flame relationships, hold on tight, dear sweet soul. This will be the most unforgettable ride of your life. Trust that you will be shown the way. Your inner compass will always point in the direction you need to be going. This is like natural birth. When you hold the newborn in your arms (You: the Butterfly), you will know exactly why you went through that hell. If the flames of that hell had not melted you away, you will be sipping your pina colada of spiritual truth by the pool of life- a life that you will mold out of the lava of your own soul truths.